Useful Communication Tips

• Remember communication is a two way process and that effective communication involves listening, not giving lectures or judging.
• Use "I" statements (I feel...when you...") instead of "you" statements ("You should..." or "Your problem is...")
• Use open questions - allow your child to explore their thoughts and feelings without sounding like an interrogation. For example, ask your child for their thoughts on their drug use. Ask them if they see any problems or potential risks and how they think these can be addressed. Ask questions in an attempt to get your child to find solutions.
• Choose an appropriate time to talk. If your child is caught at a time when they are unprepared, they may be more inclined to react defensively. Also, try to remove any distractions, such as the telephone. Avoid important discussions about your child's drug use if they are under the influence of drugs.
• Drive them when they need to be dropped off. Offering to drive gives you a good opportunity for time together. Teenagers often talk more easily when not looking at you face to face.
• The most helpful responses from parents are ones that show interest and open the way for the young person to talk on, such as: "How come?", "You must have felt..." "That sounds exciting...."

Source: Common questions parents ask about young people (n.d) Retrieved November 11, 2005 , from http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetails.aspx?p=114&np=141&id=1702